With the advent of technology and competition going global, children are under tremendous pressure to perform and adults must accept the blame. But the job of being an adult brings with it a greater sense of responsibility and wisdom, which they must demonstrate not only through their behavior but also while guiding their children.
At Khaitan Public School- one of the best CBSE schools in Ghaziabad, we have identified this challenge and thus formulated few strategies that can help kids to find a balance and purpose in life. Let’s explore.
Identifying The Right Values
Before we begin, here are some do’s and don’ts that you must follow in order to strike the first right chord of achieving balance.
Do’s
- Achieving a balance is process, so teach your children to maintain the focus on the process.
- Encourage the children to maintain a long-term perspective and value the journey.
- Encourage them to have adequate sleep, which is important to have a perfect balance.
- Love your child unconditionally.
Don’ts
- Place more weightage on grades
- Compare your child with others
- Promote decision taking abilities
- Love based on their performance.
Encourage The Curiosity 
Children are curious by nature, but at times parents place more importance on grades than encouraging children to explore newer things and think from a different angle. It is imperative for them to learn and observe the world around them too rather than paying attention to studies and grades all the time. Always encourage your children to learn by exploring and while they do it value the process of learning. If you just appreciate your child for obtaining A’s and not appreciate their hunger for curiosity and mastery, you are definitely not allowing them to develop a curious attitude for a more rewarding life.
Getting good grades matter, but mastery over a concept must be their main focus. They should remain curious throughout the learning process. If you give less importance to grades and more to study techniques, innovative ways of learning and exploring a concept, it can work wonders for your child in long term.
Motivate Children To Learn Using Different Techniques
Enable children to look forward and use learning as an experience. This technique helps overly anxious children to avoid getting stuck with low grades and in a negative feedback loop. As a parent, you can help your children focus more on learning as a process and remain calm and confident while using new learning techniques.
Also Read: Impact of Grades in Students Lives
Share Your Experience
Children don’t want to hear unrealistic success stories all the time. We all have witnessed failure at some stage of our life. Use your failure as an example to help them accept this as another phase and not the verdict of God. Discuss your failures and achievements with your children and demonstrate how you overpowered that with continual learning. You can show how unaffected you were with the failure and how you took this as a challenge to learn and invest in yourself.
Reward Them For Achieving Goals, Not Grades
Teach your children how to be in the process of continual learning and growth. You can help them set goals and guide them about the process to achieve their goals. The discussion should be light yet focused and low-pressure. The goals and not grades should be the motto of the child and the support must come from everyone in the family- literally. Each and every member in the family can set a goal for themselves while others do their bit to help them achieve it. Make the goals look more realistic and achievable. For example, rather than asking them to set ‘getting A’s in all subjects’ as a goal, you can ask them set a goal for ‘asking for help more often in a difficult subject’ or ‘planning extra sessions for English grammar.’
While setting goals, help children to be emotionally and intellectually brave. For example, some goals can be related to some social or personality obligation while others can be hobby related- such as learning guitar, dance or some foreign language lessons. For a reserved person, a goal can be to make new friends, which can be both challenging and important to them.
If you also want to know how we can make learning fun for your child at KPS, get in touch with us today for a one-on-one session.
