Why Parents must become their Child’s Best Friend?
“I don’t know what she does at school.”
“She is such a careless child.” – Parents
“My parents don’t listen to me.”
“I hate my parents.” – Children
Aren’t we all quite familiar with these types of statements? Isn’t it sad to hear the communication between parents and children is going haywire? Why is it so? The conversation between the parents and children should go beyond “I need some money!”, “Please, allow me to go to the party!”, and “The tuition fees is still pending.”
Effective parenting, deep bonding, and good connection happen when the family members express their feelings, connect with each other and communicate with compassion. Open communication creates free surrounding for the child. This helps to solve disputes and differences. It also avoids personal problems and unnecessary stress in the life of parents.
Children don’t talk to their parents, because they are not open to them, like their friends, with whom they can share all their feelings. Parents should create such a surrounding for their children, that they can share everything, from A to Z about their liking to their parents.
Communication gap leads to lack of confidence of parents in child and vice-versa. And thus gradually causing trust issues.
Better communication between parents and child will encourage efforts, modify attitudes and stimulate thinking while weak communication will lead to messages becoming distorted and a deteriorated relationship between parents and their child as a Best friend.
5 simple steps to become your child’s best friend
Becoming your child’s best friend yourself always sounds like a very good idea. Good habits help you discover and understand your child better. Here are a few easy ways through which you can become your child’s best friend.
1) Play with them: There’s no child who does not love to play.
2) Watch their favorite movies together: Children love their movies.
3) Take them to their favorite place: Children love to hang around too! Ask them where they want to go on the weekends.
4) Involve them on a day to day work: Various things happen in a home every day. Make sure your child should be a part of it.
5) Don’t just ask, share: Right from ‘how did the school go’ to ‘who’s that friend of yours’, parents ask a lot of questions. It’s time to give it a break and start sharing with them.
Being your child’s best friend, aim for developing a relational parenting approach, little effort, smartness and knowing exactly what your child expects from a friend, can put you right there.